~Being the Mother of a boy, last from son up...to son down~

things I wish I'd known before they cut me open

Thursday, May 6, 2010

being a mom has it's good moments and "not so" good moments. Do you ever sit and ponder how nice it would have been for someone to fill you in about all these "mother things" before you had a child? Or maybe it should be a law that you have to take a class before you get pregnant...cause I sure would have attended, sat at the front of the class and taken a ton of notes!

Don't get me wrong..... Kyle has been nothing but a blessing to Chris and I but he has had his "stinker" moments over the past 13 years. Like the time he colored down my new comforter with a Sharpie marker. Or the time he locked me out of the house while I went to change the laundry. Or how he locked himself in the car while strapped in his car seat(don't ask, we still can't figure it out).

Kyle has definitely kept me on my toes. You never know what is churning around up in that head of his and what is going to make it down and come out of his mouth.

1. I wish I would have known how hard it would be to watch my child lay in the NICU for 3 days.

2. or how hard it would be to hear him cry and not be able to sooth him.

3. to know first hand how soured milk smells on your clothes.

4. how much he was going to make me laugh when he learned to talk.(even to the point of drink coming out my nose)

5. or how he wants every stray creature he finds, to take up residency at our house.(tadpoles, frogs, lizards, turtles, cats, hermit crabs)

6. and now all the times I just want him to be quiet for 5 mins(see example 4)

7. how hard it would be to let him go to his first boy/girl party.

8. how gross it is to clean up pee from all around the toilet...grrrrrr!

9. to wonder what he really looks like under all that mud he stays covered in!(I swear that is what holds him together!)

10. how much my brain would hurt from listening to him make siren and truck engine noises with his mouth while I am driving down the road(he still does this even today!)

11. just how far my heart would sink when I noticed in the mirror for the first time that he was taller than me.

12. how great his love for Chevy trucks and mud tires would be.

I am sure there will be more moments to come over the years. It has been a journey that will continue.....moments he will make my blood boil and times where I want to scoop him up and hold him forever. But I guess every mother feels that way. Some moments we love them to pieces and the next we want to stand back and pretend with our finger and thumb that we are"squishin da little heads!"....come on, you know you have done that before?


Becky said...

Awesome Post. You can tell how much you are in love with your boy:)

Mary said...

Awesome post! I agree that there are some things people never tell you. Like how recovering from a birth can really suck! I like the quote I saw at Kyle's mom's house. She raised three boys on her own. It said, "There's a special place in heaven for the mothers who raise boys." I give you a lot of credit! :)

scrapwordsmom said...

Awww, this is so sweet, Trish!! Warms my heart. Makes me think of my Jackson. He is 15 and WAAAAY taller than me now. It seems like yesterday he was just a little boy. Give Kyle lots of squeezes. As he gets older he will still love you of course and give you hugs now and then but he will find his friends, do his own things. That is so hard for me!!!

Love your blog, girl!!:)

Jenna said...

AW this is so sweet!! I can't wait to have kids...and why is it that everytime we see something cute and loveable we just wanna squish it's little head?

Tamela said...

I love when you post about Kyle, You can just feel the love and compassion for him when you read them. Even though this was more geared to what drives you nuts you can still feel the love.

Tara said...

So sweet and so very true. Just yesterday, Andrew was playing in chocolate pudding and squishing it between his fingers, dropping it all over his clean clothes. I said something I shouldn't have said because I never meant it but in the moment of frustration, I did. Goodness! There is something special about mamas and their boys.

Angie said...

Oh Trish You just brought me to tears. Yes a class before hand would have been nice. Yet I don't think anyone could have ever explained to me the extremes that you feel. I mean REALLY feel. Oh ya and as for #8 I hear ya!!! Sometimes I really wonder if he pees with his eyes shut?? ;)

WhisperingWriter said...


I remember that sour milk smell. My husband nearly passed out when he tried to give me a hug. Then he pretty much pushed me into the shower.

Jules said...

So true......again I swear your son and mine are made of the same. And number 10......that was an everyday occurrence. Love those boys!

Anonymous said...

Do you know how much I love you!!~! You make me so proud to say "that's my girl!!!". All the tears and years you put into Kyle will pay off, I know... I've been there and I wouldn't change you for nothing in this world!


P.S. I, too, love your blog. It helps me to feel closer to you even though you are WAY down in NC. :)

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