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Judge Ye not...for you shall be judged

Tuesday, June 22, 2010

I received some terrible news Sunday that a friend of mine from high school had lost her 5 month old baby girl in a tragic accident.
My friend, left her 5 month old in a hot car for several hours. The baby was later found by a neighbor and rushed to the hospital where she was later pronounced dead.
She is a single mom with 4 kids. Was she preoccupied? Was she on her cell phone? Did she have her mind on what to make for dinner? Or maybe she was just tired. Not that any of these reasons make what took place okay or forgivable but as most of us are moms we can also understand some of the daily stress and chaos that goes on.
My heart breaks for her loss and I can not begin to imagine how she must feel right now. All I can do is pray that the Lord will give her and her children peace and comfort during this time.
So many people have posted such terrible things about her. They don't know her or her children. They can only judge, speculate and assume(and you know what that say about that don't ya?)
In this world we are so quick to place blame and point fingers with our "holier than thou" attitude. We sit back in our happy lives and say "how could she?" "she's a murderer!" "how do you forget your own child" when in reality, it could happen to any of us... anytime... any day.

17 comments:

Mary said...

I am so sorry about your friends little baby. What a horrible situation. I will be praying for her and her kids.

Suburban Princess said...

This happens way too often. I saw something a couple years ago on ways to prevent it so I am going to write a post about it right now and schedule it for tomorrow morning.

scrapwordsmom said...

Oh my...you know Trish I saw a story on Oprah a few years back. I will share it here {hope that is okay}...

there was this middle school teacher. Very well loved, upstanding community member, etc. Normally her husband took there baby to daycare but this day he couldn't so she was responsible. It was August....and they were getting the school ready for the new year. She was in a hurry and had a ton on her mind. And remember now she normally didn't take the baby to the sitter...her hubby did. She got to school, parked the car and went inside. That was at 8 a.m. At 4:30 that afternoon a fellow teacher came running into the school screaming. She had found the baby when she went to get in her car to go home. The baby was literally boiled. All her skin was melting off. Of course she was dead.

Did that mother do this on purpose? No. Did she have too much on her mind? Probably. Did she murder her daughter? No

Really, it isn't for any of us to judge because you are so right Trish. It could happen to any of us. As women we have so much on our minds all the time.

My heart is aching for your friend. This is truly a tragedy. So sorry...

Leslie

Cathy said...

Amen and well said Trish.

Jenna said...

Oh that is so sad. I can't imagine what that poor mother is going through! Bless her heart, I will keep her in my prayers.

Tara said...

That is so sad and my heart breaks for the whole family! I'm sure she was just preoccupied but what a serious consequence. I almost walked out of church with Andrew still in his classroom the other day. I felt like a dog that I would do such a thing but I quickly remembered. I pray she has very supportive people around her and not those that judge.

Eads Family said...

That is awful I can't imagine how her or her family is feeling right now.

When I first had my daughter I always made sure to put something cruicial in the back seat with her so that I had to get back there and I would see her. It was always a fear of mine. It only takes a break in routine (like dropping off for daycare instead of picking up) and a napping baby for this terrible accident to occur. So terribly sad. I feel for this woman and what she has to live with for the rest of her life.

Paging Doctor Mommy said...

My heart is breaking for her knowing that she has to live in regret the rest of her life. I can't even imagine...

Brooke said...

I am so sorry to hear this. Your post title is a great bible verse that I always try to remember!

Angie said...

Trish, it really can happen to anyone. It was 2001. I had a 2 (almost 3) year old. I had just had my daughter, she was 2 weeks old. My mother in law offered to watch my son so that Gary and I could put the baby down for the night and have a nice dinner. We dropped my son off and headed to Trader Joes. We parked in the parking structure, and went in to shop. We took our time debating what meal we wanted to have together. Browsed around for deserts. Made our decisions and checked out. It was until I was at the passenger door waiting for my husband to unlock the car when I looked to my left and noticed something in the back seat. It was my daughter. We had both forgotten she was in the car. How can anyone do that?! I don't know. But i'm a great Mother and he's a great Father and somehow that day we just did. Being in the parking structure where the car was shaded might have been the only reason I didn't make the news. You have no idea the guilt. I was devistated and disgusted with myself. To THIS DAY if they are to quiet in the back seat I HAVE to check to make sure they are there. I don't know how that poor Mother will ever be able to carry on.

Bridget said...

How horrible!! I am so sorry for your friend and her loss.

Meg said...

Trish, I'm really sad!!!! Your poor friend...I can't imagine. This really could happen to anyone! It doesn't mean shes a bad mom, she is sleep deprived and probably overwhelmed. My prayers are with her family!

Blessed Beyond said...

So sad. You said it well. Will be sending prayers for your friend, her children and family.

Tamela said...

My prayers are with her through this terrible time. People are way to quick to judge and that's what is making this world a horrible place.

Southern Reflections said...

What a well written post!! This breaks my heart to hear...My biggest fear is that in the craziness of my days, something will happen to my kids...I don't know if I could handle it!!

Kristi said...

I am so sorry for your friend! I saw a whole show about that on Oprah. I can't imagine how she feels. I also understand how it could happen especially with 4 kids. Theres sometimes I freak out driving down the road thinking I was so distracted getting in the car I forgot to buckle Bailey in.

Carla R. said...

Oh, the poor mother. I know that it is hard to remember everything. I heard someone say the other day that they couldn't imagine leaving their child in a car. Well, it could happen to anyone. Especially a single mom with 4 kids. I just hope she won't have issues keeping the others. That would devasate her even more. I will keep her and her family in my prayers.

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